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FAQ: Don’t women have “female privilege”?

Posted: July 25, 2013 by ladypartsdoc in Uncategorized

Finally, A Feminism 101 Blog

Short answer: No, what is commonly called “female privilege” is better described as benevolent sexism. Systems like the draft and chivalry often seem advantageous to women at first glance, but when examined more closely they in fact reinforce sexist institutions that keep both women and men from true equality. Also, it should be noted that, while men have what’s called male privilege that doesn’t mean that there must logically be a “female privilege” counterpart. This is because, although many strides towards equality have been made over the years, women as a class have not yet leveled the playing field, much less been put in a position of power and authority equivalent to that which grants institutional power to men as a class.

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The Boiling Frog Principle Of Boundary Violation

Posted: July 22, 2013 by ladypartsdoc in Uncategorized

Jaclyn said some wonderful things in her latest post at Amplify, and one in particular that I want to expand on. She wrote:

When it comes to naming sexual violence, too many of us are like frogs in a pot of slowly heating water – by the time the violation rises to the level of rape, the victim-blame has been heating around us so slowly for so long that we don’t even notice we’re boiling. And so, when an interviewer asks us if we’ve been raped, we say no, even if we’ve just described to that interviewer the details of a rape that was perpetrated against us.

What I’ve tried to tell young women — relatives and their friends, and anyone else who will listen, is that rapists test boundaries by violating them, and examining the reaction. They look for targets who don’t have the tools to set and…

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This is a link to an article recently published in the Commercial Appeal, a Memphis newspaper. It can shed much light on how prevalent crimes against women in this city are. Chloe Evans O’Hearn also writes for hoopstatic.com.

http://www.commercialappeal.com/news/2013/feb/09/frequency-and-fear-of-rape-staggers-body-and/

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*******Trigger Warning*******

While the Rape Election waged on, people living with women who were experiencing stress and trigger states were also impacted. Women who experience criminal violence of a sexual nature are all kinds of women. We have husbands, wives, daughters, sons, fathers, mothers, brothers, sisters, grandfathers, grandmothers, and friends who love us. All of these people in our lives are considered co-survivors. When these attacks on rape and incest survivors came out with such graceful precision, survivors were not the only ones listening. We were not the only ones hurt by it.

When someone goes into PTSD trigger states, it is almost like the person disappears and emotions become the person. This manifests in many ways depending on the level of the trigger state and the level of the trauma as well as the extreme nature of the trigger itself. Being shamed by the people of my nation for not wanting to have my rapist’s baby was severe trigger. I felt like the people responsible for these things were saying in code, “Boys, rape away. We got your back.” This is rape culture – or one aspect of it.

My husband had to live with me and watch me cry, go silent, cry some more, start to freak out about how we need constant 24/7 video running to some security company and a panic button. He also had to relive watching me deal with sexual assault that occurred while we were a couple. It wasn’t easy to rebuild a sex life after that, and I know he loves me because he stayed through it. We are not unique. This is how many co-survivors have had to live during this campaign insanity entitled the War on Women caused by greedy men and women in power who believe in nothing.

Making this documentary is a cathartic way for me to build the armor that I need to deal with this in the next election if there are people dumb enough to run campaigns on rape in 2016. It is also a way for us to get to know each other – all survivors. Feeling alone is one of our biggest battles. All of the women and men participating in this project are forming a community. Communities have power in many ways – voice, unity, self-reliance, and hope. That’s how I see it, anyway.

It is because the War on Women hurt men as well that we are interviewing men. Not only are men co-survivors, they are also survivors. In this election, male survivors were invisible. Yet, male survivors need as much support and community as females. Including them in this community is important because it is right, but also because it is with division that we are conquered.

~Jennifer

A powerful show of sisterhood and unity in a city claiming one of the highest rates of violence against women in the United States.

http://onebillionrising.org/page/event/detail/startarising/wrjv

Lady Parts Updates: The Journey of the Lady Parts

I can hardly believe it has been less than two months since I conceived of this idea, asked Sara to join me as a partner, and began the process with someone as fun as Sara to work with me. So much has happened that I will just start from the beginning.

  1. Sara and I had lunch in January, discussed this idea, plotted out the ways to do it financially, physically, and literally.
  2. We spent a couple of weeks discussing what exactly we wanted to do. Making a documentary with such a broad focus requires much forethought. Questions, interviewees, technical issues like what footage we can use and what we have to ask the rights to use…really exciting stuff.
  3. We found a good camera and a tripod suitable to our purpose.
  4. Interviews commenced! We had the honor of interviewing such people as Casey Lanham, Ellyahnna Christina Hall, author and professor at LeMoyne Owen College, Gee Joyner, and Joan Carr of Planned Parenthood of Greater Memphis between late January and mid February.  
  5. Event filming! We were able to film at a Women’s Action Coalition of Midsouth poster making meeting for the Valentine’s Day One Billion Rising Event in Memphis. Sara edited the footage from the One Billion Rising Event and made a video that seemed to capture the essence of the event and its meaning.
  6. We stopped interviewing until March so that we could get some content for our blog, catch our breath, and attend events. The next event is the People’s Lobby Day in Nashville on March 12, 2013. Sara will be attending, and I may be attending. I may not be able to travel that day for personal matters.
  7. Upcoming interviews will be with Dr. Zandria F. Robinson, professor of Sociology at the University of Memphis, Rebecca Terrell from Choices in Memphis, Erin Lanham, student at the University of Memphis, and a few more we will announce later.
  8. Last, but never least, we have added a member to our team, author Ellyahnna Christina Hall, has agreed to be a regular writer for this blog. We are very excited about this and will have a more about it when she has finished her piece.
  9. We have decided to have guest authors to write about their thoughts on all things Feminist. Sara and I are funny women, so we only know fun people. You will not be disappointed by our guest authors.